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'I love you more than words can say.'

Shawn December 07, 2018 at 18:25 12350 views 95 comments
Does the following sentence...:

"I love you more than words can say."

... express its meaning?

Comments (95)

Shawn December 07, 2018 at 18:49 #234479
Why was this moved to the Lounge? It's a legitimate question.
Baden December 07, 2018 at 19:30 #234492
Reply to Wallows

It strikes me as casual barstool "philosophy" with no definitive answer that's likely to invite a lot of attempts at humour rather than being a serious philosophical issue that you're puzzled about.

But if I'm wrong and it develops in an unexpectedly positive direction, I'll move it back
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 19:34 #234494
Quoting Baden
It strikes me as casual barstool "philosophy" with no definitive answer that's likely to invite a lot of attempts at humour rather than being a serious philosophical issue that you're puzzled about.

But if I'm wrong and it develops in an unexpectedly positive direction, I'll move it back


Innocent until proven guilty? Let's give it a chance on the front page at least? Could invite some serious discussion about meaning?
Baden December 07, 2018 at 19:37 #234497
Reply to Wallows

Alright then.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 19:39 #234499
Quoting Baden
Alright then.


Thank you Baden.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 19:42 #234501
To post something philosophical, the sentence "I love you more than words can say." appears to be a self-referential sentence, is that true? It would be more appropriate to say something "I love you more than these words can say."; but, it appears to be self-referential by the general "than words can say" to my eyes.

Is it self-referential?
Terrapin Station December 07, 2018 at 19:44 #234502
Quoting Wallows
Does the following sentence...:

"I love you more than words can say."

... express its meaning?


Sentences don't literally "express meaning," you assign meaning to them. And sure, that sentence is easy for many of us to assign meanings to, and to provide alternate wordings of, etc.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 19:48 #234504
Quoting Terrapin Station
Sentences don't literally "express meaning," you assign meaning to them.


Then, is the meaning of "I love you more than words can say." obtained from self-referentiality?
Terrapin Station December 07, 2018 at 19:51 #234505
Reply to Wallows

What part of the sentence might you take to be referring to the sentence itself?
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 19:54 #234506
Quoting Terrapin Station
What part of the sentence might you take to be referring to the sentence itself?


In "I love you more than words can say", I'm assuming that it's the "than words can say" part. The words obviously being the words of the sentence itself, including all the words listed in a common dictionary.
Terrapin Station December 07, 2018 at 19:58 #234507
Reply to Wallows

Not words in general?
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 20:02 #234510
Quoting Terrapin Station
Not words in general?


Well, that includes the words in the sentence itself, no?
Terrapin Station December 07, 2018 at 20:05 #234512
Reply to Wallows

Well, sure, those are words, too. So then you'd say that any sentence about language, words in general is self-referential?
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 20:07 #234513
Quoting Terrapin Station
Well, sure, those are words, too. So then you'd say that any sentence about language, words in general is self-referential?


Well, sure. But, do you have any example in mind?
Terrapin Station December 07, 2018 at 20:17 #234518
Reply to Wallows

"Linguistics is the scientific study of language" for example.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 20:20 #234519
Quoting Terrapin Station
"Linguistics is the scientific study of language" for example.


It doesn't appear to be self-referential in the same manner that "I love you more than words can say."

Is it?

I don't know if intentionality is a factor here, as in with "love"?
andrewk December 07, 2018 at 20:21 #234520
Quoting Wallows
Is it self-referential?

No, because it is a statement of inequality, just like saying - 'I am taller than that anthill'. If it were a statement of equality it might be self-referential.

Another example might be 'I am heavier than this scale can measure'. It is not self-referential. It is really just saying something about the limitations of the scale.

Scale <-> words.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 20:22 #234522
Quoting andrewk
No, because it is a statement of inequality, just like saying - 'I am taller than that anthill'. If it were a statement of equality it might be self-referential.


But, intentions have no measure of equality. Do they? They're purely qualitative, with no quantitative measure.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 20:29 #234523
Waiting for @Banno to chime in.
Terrapin Station December 07, 2018 at 20:42 #234528
Quoting Wallows
It doesn't appear to be self-referential in the same manner that "I love you more than words can say."


So then simply referring to language or words when there are language or words in the sentence probably isn't sufficient for something to be self-referential
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 20:44 #234529
Quoting Terrapin Station
So then simply referring to language or words when there are language or words in the sentence probably isn't sufficient for something to be self-referential


I'm not sure. It seems to me that to talk about intentionalities in the manner of being of greater significance/meaning than "what words can say" seems quite self-referential to me.
Terrapin Station December 07, 2018 at 20:51 #234530
Say that we boot up a Commodore 64 and start typing text from websites into it. We're stuck with no storage devices other than the Commodore's on-board RAM.

At the start, though, we type, "The Internet contains much more text than this computer will be able to."

Is that self-referential?
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 20:53 #234533
Quoting Terrapin Station
Is that self-referential?


No, because there's no room for ambiguity and vagueness to fill in there as in the case with qualitative aspects of the intentionality of "love" in the sentence posited in the OP. I feel as though half of the meaning of the sentence is expressed in its ambiguity and vagueness.
Terrapin Station December 07, 2018 at 21:06 #234544
Reply to Wallows

Why would ambiguity/vagueness have something to do with self-referentiality, though?
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 21:07 #234545
Quoting Terrapin Station
Why would ambiguity/vagueness have something to do with self-referentiality, though?


I don't know. That's just one component of the meaning of the sentence, is what I meant. Self-referentiality, the other.
Terrapin Station December 07, 2018 at 21:08 #234548
The love sentence is similar to the Commdore 64 sentence. They're both saying that the medium at hand isn't capable of doing the job we'd like for it to be able to do.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 21:11 #234551
Quoting Terrapin Station
The love sentence is similar to the Commdore 64 sentence. They're both saying that the medium at hand isn't capable of doing the job we'd like for it to be able to do.


Yes; but I refer you back to what @andrewk said. Namely, the sentence achieves inequality in the case of the Commodore 64. In the case of the intentionality of love, we cannot achieve a state of 'inequality' due to the vagueness and ambiguity of the intentionality or subject of 'love'.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 21:35 #234562
BTW, andrewk, could you refer me to where I can read up on more of what you already said? Seems interesting.
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:13 #234591
Reply to Baden Thou shalt not laugh.


Philosophy is serious, and one ought not have any fun while philosophising. If it is funny, it is not philosophy.
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:17 #234594
Reply to Wallows Are you stalking me? My ancient wisdom, reincarnated in a new forum.
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:18 #234595
Quoting Wallows
"I love you more than words can say."


..says how much I love you, and yet does so in words...
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:19 #234596
...the philosophical point, contra @Baden, being that it is a showing, not a saying, but with words.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 23:19 #234597
Quoting Banno
Are you stalking me? My ancient wisdom, reincarnated in a new forum.


No, I'm just a student relishing in old wisdom.
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:20 #234598
Reply to Wallows I'm content to be the centre of attention.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 23:21 #234602
Quoting Banno
I'm content to be the centre of attention.


What do you think about what andrewk said? Here's it again:

Quoting andrewk
Is it self-referential?
— Wallows
No, because it is a statement of inequality, just like saying - 'I am taller than that anthill'. If it were a statement of equality it might be self-referential.

Another example might be 'I am heavier than this scale can measure'. It is not self-referential. It is really just saying something about the limitations of the scale.

Scale <-> words.


Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:31 #234605
Quoting Terrapin Station
Sentences don't literally "express meaning," you assign meaning to them.


I'd say we build meaning rather than assign it.
fdrake December 07, 2018 at 23:34 #234607
The underlying relationship between affect and its expression is of a mismatch of registers. Were it that I could speak only my mind, I could express the depths of my love. I always love more than words can say.
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:37 #234608
Quoting andrewk
just like saying - 'I am taller than that anthill'.


Well, no it's not like that, because that sentence is about anthills, while the other is about words.

It's not a direct self-reference, but "language cannot express my love for you" is an expression of my love for you, in language.

So it can't be read directly, but nor is it metaphorical.

So it puts the lie to the notion that language expresses some inner belief; and it puts the lie to the notion that language cannot express what is beyond or outside of language.

The use to which language is put in "I love you more than words can say" transcends language.
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:38 #234609
Quoting fdrake
I always love more than words can say.


And yet you said it.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 23:41 #234611
Quoting Banno
It's not a direct self-reference, but "language cannot express my love for you" is an expression of my love for you, in language.


But, self-referentiality plays a role in expressing its meaning, no?
Terrapin Station December 07, 2018 at 23:42 #234612
Quoting Banno
I'd say we build meaning rather than assign it


We might not be saying anything different there (as long as you're thinking of it as an individual feat)
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:43 #234613
Reply to Wallows The self-reference is not directly to the sentence but to the language in whcih the sentence is expressed.
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:47 #234614
Reply to Terrapin Station Individual?

The meaning, so far as that term has any meaning, is found in the doing, which for language cannot be an individual activity.

The meaning is not assigned. It often happens that one says something that means something other than might have been intended.

So I am not sure we do agree.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 23:47 #234615
Quoting Banno
The self-reference is not directly to the sentence but to the language in whcih the sentence is expressed.


That entails the sentence itself, doesn't it?
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:48 #234616
Reply to Wallows IN that the sentence is in a language, and is about language. But not in the way that "this sentence starts with 'this'" is self-referential.
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 23:49 #234617
Quoting Banno
IN that the sentence is in a language, and is about language. But not in the way that "this sentence starts with 'this'" is self-referential.


Then it's a matter of scope, no?
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:50 #234620
Shawn December 07, 2018 at 23:51 #234622
Reply to Banno

So, if I say, "I hate you more than anything."

Is it the same type of expression as "I love you more than words can say."?
fdrake December 07, 2018 at 23:52 #234624
Reply to Banno

Love belongs to the form of life rather than the sentence. A lossy presentation is a feature of every definite proposition.
Banno December 07, 2018 at 23:57 #234625
Reply to Wallows What do you think?
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 00:00 #234627
Reply to Banno

Hmm. I think it's quite a strong thing to say; but, then again all you need is love...

Anyway, one applies the universal quantifier to its meaning, while the other is seemingly (in)directly self-referential.

You tell me.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 03:01 #234663
So, @Banno, the limits of my language are the limits of my world? Has meaning been expressed adequately with "I love you more than words can say."?
Metaphysician Undercover December 08, 2018 at 03:08 #234669
Quoting Banno
...the philosophical point, contra Baden, being that it is a showing, not a saying, but with words.


It actually shows very little, if anything at all. It says "I love you more than words can say". And this is really a meaningless comparison as andrewk points out, the scale is inept. Words really can't say a whole lot about love, love is demonstrated by actions. So what words can say about love is really just an anthill compared to the mountain which love is. And saying "I love you more than..." is an action which only shows the tiniest part, if any (assuming the person speaks the truth), of one's true love.
andrewk December 08, 2018 at 05:21 #234723
Quoting Wallows
It seems to me that to talk about intentionalities in the manner of being of greater significance/meaning than "what words can say" seems quite self-referential to me.

Does intention need to be part of analysing the sentence? I feel I'm missing a link there somewhere.

I wonder about the self-referentiality. We know that a logical language cannot allow unrestricted reference to all its components because that allows the construction of Russell-type sentences that are syntactically valid yet lead to contradictions. So the language itself would be inconsistent. But it is not clear to me that such contradictions necessarily arise from allowing restricted reference to the language in which sentences are written. Consider for instance if there is a constant symbol in the language's alphabet that denotes the collection of all well-formed sentences that can be written in the language, but there are no symbols by which one can refer to truth or falsity of a sentence in the language. I cannot see how one would construct a Russell-type contradiction from that, yet perhaps it would allow expression of the sentence in the OP - assuming the language contains a grammar for expressing feelings, which seems a much harder ask regardless of self-referentiality.

I really don't know about expressing feelings in a formal language. For instance, does 'I love you more than words can say' really tell us anything? To me it seems to say there are no combinations of words I can say that could evoke in you the feeling that I am feeling - that would allow you to see that feeling. Could we not say the same about any feeling, ie any quale. Taking the usual example, we could say 'words cannot express to you the experience I have when I look at this piece of paper that we both say is "red" '. All it is doing is pointing at the incommunicability of qualia. If we accept that, is there any difference between the incommunicability of a powerful feeling like overpowering infatuation, and that of a banal feeling like looking at a piece of red paper? Perhaps both the statement about my love and the one about my experience of red are both just ordinary instances of the general statement 'qualia are incommunicable'.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 06:10 #234747
Quoting andrewk
Does intention need to be part of analysing the sentence?


According to what I've read, yes. Most certainly.
andrewk December 08, 2018 at 06:29 #234750
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 06:30 #234751
Quoting andrewk
Why?


Because intentionality is the referent for meaning to obtain?
andrewk December 08, 2018 at 06:31 #234752
Reply to Wallows Do you mean intensionality?
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 06:32 #234753
Quoting andrewk
Do you mean intensionality?


Yes.
Baden December 08, 2018 at 10:05 #234781
Quoting Banno
Philosophy is serious, and one ought not have any fun while philosophising. If it is funny, it is not philosophy.


Alright then.

Quoting Banno
the philosophical point, contra Baden, being that it is a showing, not a saying, but with words.


Alright then.
Streetlight December 08, 2018 at 10:09 #234783
Tsk tsk. All these people taking the statement at a constative, rather than performative level.
unenlightened December 08, 2018 at 10:18 #234785
This self referential sentence is unproblematic; most are. Paradox only arises when a self-reference negates itself.

Quoting Wallows
the limits of my language are the limits of my world? Has meaning been expressed adequately with "I love you more than words can say."?


For there to be a limit, there must be that which is beyond the limit, and to speak of the limit is to point at 'whereof one cannot speak'. My world is limited, but my love surpasses the limit, as it surpasses myself. One speaks, obviously, within the limits of language. And at the limit, necessarily one points to what is beyond the limit, not always in the paradox of negation, but as a map of old had an area beyond the known and called it 'unexplored territory.' Words cannot tell what lies in unexplored territory, until we go and explore it.

This is the sentiment of young love. We oldies have explored a bit, and tend to say, "I love you like chips love salt, like shit loves a fan, like a war loves corpses, like a leopard loves spots", and so on. Knowing that it is both extravagant and inadequate.
Metaphysician Undercover December 08, 2018 at 12:32 #234813
Quoting unenlightened
Words cannot tell what lies in unexplored territory, until we go and explore it.


Oh I like that, it's poetry waiting to be written ... love, the unexplored territory, let's go explore it. Almost makes me feel young again, and, in my opinion it holds a lot more potential than the old cliché, "I love you more than words can say".
unenlightened December 08, 2018 at 12:40 #234817
Quoting Metaphysician Undercover
Oh I like that


You might like it, or you might not. The old maps also used to say "Here be dragons".
Terrapin Station December 08, 2018 at 12:58 #234822
Reply to Banno

Right, we don't agree then. Meaning is an individual mental event (or series of events). On my view, as something mental, it can't be made public/third-person observable.

Meaning is not the same as a definition. Meaning is a matter of thinking about things so that there's an associative connection.
Metaphysician Undercover December 08, 2018 at 13:18 #234825
Reply to unenlightened
You ruined the moment! When anything looks so good, there always has to be something bad hiding behind it. It's that duck-rabbit syndrome. The duck looks so happy and lovable, while the rabbit looks mean and ready to attack. Why did you show me the rabbit?
unenlightened December 08, 2018 at 13:31 #234829
My apologies, but love hurts. You better head for the trauma thread for some therapy.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 19:14 #234918
Quoting unenlightened
Words cannot tell what lies in unexplored territory, until we go and explore it.


But, we're talking about emotions and intent. Is this another case of having a huge giant beetle in a box, and saying that it is so awesome to have?
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 19:15 #234920
Quoting StreetlightX
Tsk tsk. All these people taking the statement at a constative, rather than performative level.


How does that alter its meaning?
unenlightened December 08, 2018 at 19:40 #234934
Quoting Wallows
Is this another case of having a huge giant beetle in a box, and saying that it is so awesome to have?


I don't think so. Well I suppose if you declare the existence of dragons having not explored, then it is in a sense. But if you live the ongoing catastrophe that is marriage, you discover that love has little to do with your feelings, and is mainly about wiping other people's bottoms and other forms of taking pains.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 19:43 #234937
Quoting unenlightened
I don't think so.


Well, I'm under the impression that the meaning in "I love you more than words can say." is extra-syntactic. The map is not the territory; but, I've already supposed that nothing in the territory is illustrative of how I feel about some person.
unenlightened December 08, 2018 at 20:04 #234947
Quoting Wallows
I've already supposed that nothing in the territory is illustrative of how I feel about some person.


Oh. Then it's a beetle.
BC December 08, 2018 at 20:33 #234954
Quoting Wallows
6.1k
Does the following sentence...:

"I love you more than words can say."

... express its meaning?


If you really loved me more than words could say, you would say nothing, would you not? Since you attempted to quantify your love for me, I have to assume that you do not love with more than words can say. And after all I've done for you!

"I love you" is meaningful, "I will love you until the day I die" is meaningful. "I will love you as long as you are beautiful; after that, forget it" is meaningful. A bit too frank and honest, but meaningful. "I will love you forever" is highly doubtful, because you are not going to live forever, and even if you did, I don't expect to be around forever to check up on whether you are fulfilling your claim. Jesus can get away with saying "I am with you till the end of time" but he is a special case, since he exists in all times.

Quoting Terrapin Station
Sentences don't literally "express meaning," you assign meaning to them.


Terrapin, edible turtle, I am not altogether happy about your view that sentences don't literally "express meaning". Granted, we are reading abstract symbols grouped into words into sentences, and the symbols just sit there waiting for a reader, hearer, or clairvoyant. But the author picked particular words grouped into unique sentences. The author expressed something, and that something is carried in the sentence. Arbitrarily assigning meaning gets us... where?

Banno December 08, 2018 at 20:35 #234955
Reply to Baden Alright, then?

Cheers!
Banno December 08, 2018 at 20:54 #234958
Love, and be silent.

Unhappy that I am, I cannot heave my heart into my mouth.
Terrapin Station December 08, 2018 at 20:57 #234959
Quoting Bitter Crank
The author expressed something, and that something is carried in the sentence. Arbitrarily assigning meaning gets us... where?


The sentence is really just a set of marks on paper, or a computer screen, or sounds that someone is making, or hand movements, etc. We don't arbitrarily assign meaning, but the meaning isn't literally in the marks, sounds, motions, etc. The meaning is in our heads.
Streetlight December 08, 2018 at 23:14 #235000
Reply to Wallows It doesn't. It just raises stupid non-problems mistaken for philosophical ones.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 23:17 #235002
Quoting StreetlightX
It doesn't. It just raises stupid non-problems mistaken for philosophical ones.


But, if the sentence, "I love you more than words can say." is self-referential although indirectly, then it's a philosophical issue, no?

Streetlight December 08, 2018 at 23:19 #235006
Only the naive and the philosophical think that 'I love you more than words can say' expresses a statement about the relationship between words and one's love. One actually has to dumb oneself down to treat it like that, as most in this thread seem to have done.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 23:23 #235008
Quoting StreetlightX
Only the naive and the philosophical think that 'I love you more than words can say' expresses a statement about the relationship between words and one's love. One actually has to dumb oneself down to treat it like that, as most in this thread seem to have done.


Then if we could start with a clean slate, how would you have commented on the superficial problem that that sentence poses in your view?
Streetlight December 08, 2018 at 23:24 #235010
I wouldn't.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 23:25 #235012
Quoting StreetlightX
I wouldn't.


So, it's trifle irrelevancy? I hold the view that the sentence in mind has import towards the philosophy of language.
Streetlight December 08, 2018 at 23:28 #235015
As an example of how not to conduct philosophy, perhaps.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 23:30 #235016
Quoting StreetlightX
As an example of how not to conduct philosophy, perhaps.


But, @Banno thinks the sentence in question has something to tell us about how we use language.
Streetlight December 08, 2018 at 23:35 #235019
Yes, Banno rightly cottons on to the statement as a performance, and dispenses, rightly, with the trash about the limits of language and paradoxes and self-reference and other miscellany.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 23:37 #235021
I'll leave it at that then. I wonder what Banno thinks or if his views have changed since the old PF.
Banno December 08, 2018 at 23:39 #235023
Quoting Wallows
I wonder what Banno thinks or if his views have changed since the old PF.


I hope it has.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 23:40 #235024
Quoting Banno
I hope it has.


How so?
Banno December 08, 2018 at 23:41 #235026
Reply to Wallows I don't know. I don't remember what I once thought. But you have access to the old thread? You tell me.
Streetlight December 08, 2018 at 23:43 #235029
As if: "I love you to the moon and back" raises astro-engineering problems.
Shawn December 08, 2018 at 23:44 #235032
Quoting Banno
But you have access to the old thread?


I wish I did! Maybe someone could persuade @Paul to open source that database. He still has it. I doubt Porat or whoever was the accomplice on killing the old PF would even care if such a triviality happened.
Banno December 09, 2018 at 00:28 #235065
Reply to Terrapin Station I will just point to @Sam26's reply elsewhere.
BC December 09, 2018 at 00:36 #235067
Reply to StreetlightX Oh, StreetlightX, that's sooo cute, you used a quote from "Guess How Much I Love You" by Sam McBratney and Anita Jeram. Did your caretaker read it to you when you were still just a small bulb on the corner?

"I love you up to the moon," said Little Nutbrown Hare.

"Oh, that's far," said Big Nutbrown Hare. "That is very, very far." Big Nutbrown Hare settled Little Nutbrown Hare into his bed of leaves.

He leaned over and kissed him goodnight. Then he lay down close by and whispered with a smile, "I love you to the moon and back."

Note how the Big Hare is modeling good male parenting behaviors, as well as raising astro-engineering problems.

Philosophy is everywhere.

Don't sneer too much -- they've sold 28,000,000 copies of the book.
Streetlight December 09, 2018 at 01:21 #235077
Reply to Bitter Crank I was thinking more Savage Garden with a twist but sure!
Valentinus December 09, 2018 at 01:42 #235079
I dunno. Maybe your words could say it, if you said the right words.
Feels like the poet is mailing it in.