Sam Sam

Fair enough. I did experience temptation and I took time to ponder my decision. (The pondering was useful and brought me personal growth.)

Since it had no sentimental value to him, I'd say the value was equal to us both.

yes it does

Yes, we are interdependent. The tribal mentality that is so prevalent now is unfortunate.

I just wasn't comfortable doing that - not my style

I like how you phrase that

thanks

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turns out he didn't know it was there - not a surprise given where it was

It turns out he was very polite and did give me a nice reward (a use laptop). The ring did not have sentimental value to him - he wanted to sell it an...

thanks

FOLLOW UP I have returned the ring. Because the yard sale ad was on Facebook, I was able to message the seller. About 36 hours later I heard back. We ...

Good point. I have seen ads in the yard sale section of the newspaper asking please return my golf clubs (or whatever) I did not mean to sell them. Bu...

Several people have said the answer is obvious. But at the same time, the responses vary widely. Does that mean it is obvious to some and not to other...

You are right. So why did I ask? Curiosity.

Oh Yes! (But after a while it becomes your junk and you have to get more)

Yes - I call it the circle of junk. My wife has bought small appliances (blenders, etc.) at yard sales because they were better than what we had. Then...

I disagree that it would be as easy for him to reach me as it would be for me to reach him. First, he may not have noticed it is missing. Second, he h...

Follow Up Question - If I am able to reach the seller I will return it and ask nothing in return. But, if he offers me a reward, is it proper for me t...

Other people have also said they thought that estimate is low. But to me it is irrelevant - it will not change what I do.

Update - I took the ring to a jeweler. Here is what he told me: The band is 14 K yellow gold There is white gold around the stone The ring weighs abou...

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thanks - I really appreciate that. I miss him so much, but I am starting to get to the point where I can enjoy the good memories.

great story! I'm glad it worked out. My view on karma changed when my brother died of cancer last year - made it much harder for me to believe in karm...

wow - I had no idea!

Update - I have sent a message to the seller explaining what happened. I will return the ring if he wants it.

that is what I doing - thanks

I don't see a button to upload a photo - how did you do it?

I am not sure if I should take your post seriously. Anyway, it was in small box inside another small box, so it did not fall off a finger.

I have asked many people I know what they think - it is about 50-50 keep/return

What makes you think most others see it that way? You may be right, I am just curious how you reached that conclusion.

Not that it makes a different, but the ring was in a little box, so did not fall off a finger.

Thanks Tim - interesting, thoughtful, and useful

Well said - thanks for the feedback. Another thought - sentimental value and monetary value often differ. I have a 45 RPM record given to me by my lat...