Semper Fi
I often think about this quote with respect to my mother. It's a motto used in the United States Marine Core that symbolizes faith towards the Core no matter what the price one has to pay. The concept is ingrained within me with the idea of duty and the Kantian ethos. Yet, if the end justifies the means, are Marine's behaving contrary to what Kant would have wanted?
One other concept comes to my mind. Namely, the fiduciary duty a parent has towards their children. But, how does one define the process of abandoning one's fiduciary duty towards their family? When does a father abandon his fiduciary duty?
Again this thread kind of links back to my other thread about mothers being the more caring and thoughtful nest builders. I've never heard of mothers abandoning their duty towards their own children, unless we're talking about crackheads, opiate addicts, and such.
Thoughts?
One other concept comes to my mind. Namely, the fiduciary duty a parent has towards their children. But, how does one define the process of abandoning one's fiduciary duty towards their family? When does a father abandon his fiduciary duty?
Again this thread kind of links back to my other thread about mothers being the more caring and thoughtful nest builders. I've never heard of mothers abandoning their duty towards their own children, unless we're talking about crackheads, opiate addicts, and such.
Thoughts?
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I think this covers it:
Quoting Cornell Law Definition.
Is this better?
https://www.stimmel-law.com/en/articles/fiduciary-duty-what-it-and-what-does-it-impose-upon-you
https://scholarship.law.columbia.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=3087&context=faculty_scholarship
Well, my conception of what constitutes a fiduciary duty wrt. to parenting is that one always acts in the best interest of the child.
Lawyers would flip out with such a definition; but, I think that nails down the gist of the issue.
Yes, I agree with everything said. No complaints or disagreement.
But, to act in the best interest of someone requires one to know what is best. So, is there some epistemic closure that can be achieved here or not?
The best interest, yes... Hmm, that's a bit hard to define.
How would you go about addressing this issue?
It isn't everyday that mother-love and the USMC, semper fi, and all, are rolled up together that way. I'd avoid it, myself.
The relationship between parent and child is not "fiduciary" -- which describes a relationship between a trustee and a beneficiary. The language of the USMC, and the language of trusts are not suitably applied to the relationship between a parent and a child. The relationship between parent and child is deeper than that between a trustee and the beneficiary.
Let's keep our categories distinct. The family is the family, work is work, the military is the military, banks and trusts are contradictions in terms, and so forth.
The language appropriate to family has to do with devotion and love, to caring, nurturing, and sacrifice. The abandonment of a child by his or her parent (male or female) may be a life shaping (or life-deforming) experience.
By the way, it's "corps" and not "core". And if you add an 'e' you get a corpse. I'm sure you knew that.
Hmm, I guess there's nothing wrong with a Sunday Semper Fi from son to mother.
It is all in good faith.
It's really rare.
Who cares? Stop trying to make the world fit your prejudice. Mothers can betray their duty just like fathers.
But it's rarer for women than men. Doesn't that prove something?
Something? It doesn't prove what you seem to want it to. You're not being a scientist, and this is a matter for science. If you're genuinely interested, then look into the science.
But, it's true!
It's just another hasty generalisation, influenced by a harmful stereotype which you're choosing to spread.
But, women do better in schools, are nicer people, aren't backstabbers, don't go to prison nearly as much as males.
So, aren't they better than us males in some regards?
That's a mixture of fact and poorly considered opinion. Opinion which is not just ignorant, but condemnable. I don't know what your true purpose with these sort of comments is, whether you're trolling or sincere, but I don't like it.
Quoting Wallows
Again, "in some regards" is very different to more specific claims and generalisations. You're moving the goalposts again, perhaps deliberately.
My instincts are telling me that I should stop engaging you.
But, I'm at least looking for affirmation here. Aren't women just basically better suited for some roles than men are or are I getting this all mixed up?
And now we've taken a hard right turn. Women have their place and men theirs. Lovely.
Maybe I'm confused, but, I think women are just as good if not better than men in some regards.
Have I spoken some heresy?
Mothers don't abandon their children as often as men do. Much, much more often than men they hold on to their offspring, doing a perfectly wretched job of caring for them, or using them as pawns for benefits or for various neurotic needs. And that's without crack or smack, booze and weed.
Ride pubic transit more often, and observe.
It's sexist, poorly thought out, and a continuation of your ongoing nonsense about how you love your mommy.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z6rKrO5iLZs
From the Bible to the popular song
There's one theme that we find right along
Of all ideals they hail as good
The most sublime is motherhood
There was a man though, who it seems
Once carried this ideal to extremes
He loved his mother and she loved him
And yet his story is rather grim
There once lived a man named Oedipus Rex
You may have heard about his odd complex
His name appears in Freud's index
'Cause he loved his mother
His rivals used to say quite a bit
That as a monarch he was most unfit
But still in all they had to admit
That he loved his mother
Yes, he loved his mother like no other
His daughter was his sister and his son was his brother
One thing on which you can depend is,
He sure knew who a boy's best friend is
When he found what he had done
He tore his eyes out, one by one
A tragic end to a loyal son
Who loved his mother
So be sweet and kind to mother
Now and then have a chat
Buy her candy or some flowers
Or a brand new hat
But maybe you had better let it go at that
Or you may find yourself with a quite complex complex
And you may end up like Oedipus
I'd rather marry a duck-billed platypus Than end up like old Oedipus Rex
It was meant as sincere. Aren't women better than men at some things and likewise men at some things? I'm trying to be impartial, and this hasn't anything to do with my mother.
I just love my mom because she cares about me. I'm also advocating Carol Gilligan's and Nel Noddings ethics of care.
Many people love their mothers, and many mothers are very caring. The same can be said for fathers. But for purposes of philosophical discussion, it would be better to weigh differences between men and women without frequent recourse (or maybe any recourse) to the virtues or lack thereof one's mother or father.
One's own parent is too small a sample, even if as a sample they loom larger than the moon in the sky. My parents have been dead for quite some time, but I loved them both, and both of them were very loving in different but equally caring ways. But that's 2 people out of 7 billion.
Oh dear. I haven't looked up to my father since I was 16.
The above shows a level of trolling/stupidity/naivety/ignorance that is frankly SO extreme it’s fascinating to observe. Forget what I said about going on twitter instead. I think seeking therapy would be a better option and once you’ve done that maybe it’d be useful to take more of a back seat and think about what you post before you post it as you’re doing yourself no favours - perhaps give yourself 24hrs to reread your posts before making them public?
Edit: I completely misread your OP. Sorry.
Are women better than men?
Yes, in some ways and no, in others.
You'd probably get the same answer if you had asked about men.
To gve you some context. It's the same question and the answer which was in favor of men that got feminism going right? We're in search of equilibrium, balance, equality I believe and not trying to swing the scales of social justice the other way.
What do you think?
They're much better at gestation.
Also tall people are better at basketball.
But why are such variations of interest to you? If you imagine that morality is to be judged by what folks have between their legs, you are a bit off-course.
Speaking of mothers, my mother was linguistically and mathematically extremely smart, but was obliged on marriage to give up her work. That was the rule at the time, because people assumed that women are just basically better suited for some roles than men - meaning childcare and domestic servant. My mother might or might not have been the exception, but wasn't given the choice.
People are getting annoyed with you because the things you are saying were used within living memory, and are still used more or less covertly to coerce people into conforming to what is at best an averaged generalised image. Women are not all the same, and some are more 'mannish' than some men. I am a man, and I am shit hot at childcare, apart from the lactating thing. So please stop imposing your 'just basic averages' onto a wonderfully various and individual world.
Full disclosure, I took on the role of the dunce (yes it was intentional) to expose what I thought was something important. I haven't seen a female reply to my posts, due to perhaps not wanting to agree with me; but, some male posters sure got their jammies up over it. My work is done and I will respect the extreme plasticity of assumed gender roles which aren't mutually exclusive.
Anyone is free to call me ignorant or need therapy (what a joke), and the like. But, I will stop playing the forum dunce for now.
Why come onto a philosopy forum playing someone with Borat level intelligence? What was the purpose? How is it different from trolling?
I wasn’t joking. The comment I quoted is monumentally ignorant and possible due to some kind of psychological disfunction (or plain stupidity). I believe there are some qualified therapists on this forum so ask them. I’m not annoyed by what you’ve written but I’m not in the habit of sitting idle and pretending it’s acceptable to write things, like what I quoted, and expect people to take it seriously.
I politely asked you not to comment on my psychologically ill and apparent dementia or developing Alzheimer's. So, I won't comment in return to your post.
I would say AGAIN that is probably not a fitting environment if you have such problems - seek professional advice.
No thanks. Hope you feel better soon.