Some advice needed.
Heyo,
I have a situation that is going to arise soon that I wanted to discuss. Namely, my mother and I are currently going through a division of wealth over the house I currently live in. My father pretty much took all my moms money and transferred the rest to another country. With the evidence we have, it seems like we should get the house in total to our name.
Herein is the problem. I am not entirely sure what to do after overcoming the division of joint assets. Should I move out or stay and live happily with my mother?
I understand most would say to move out and explore the world; but, I have grown pessimistic about adventures and like my steady abode home.
Basically, I am apprehensive of moving out and not making the cut. As some of you may know by now, I am on disability for a mental disorder. I have developed over the years some sort of strong nagging urge not to deal with other people. I don't know if these issues need to be addressed first or deal with them as they come along when I move out?
To be quite honest, I don't think I will be able to maintain a job and living essentials, and hence the desire to stay put and happily age with my mom.
Any thoughts or advice welcome.
I have a situation that is going to arise soon that I wanted to discuss. Namely, my mother and I are currently going through a division of wealth over the house I currently live in. My father pretty much took all my moms money and transferred the rest to another country. With the evidence we have, it seems like we should get the house in total to our name.
Herein is the problem. I am not entirely sure what to do after overcoming the division of joint assets. Should I move out or stay and live happily with my mother?
I understand most would say to move out and explore the world; but, I have grown pessimistic about adventures and like my steady abode home.
Basically, I am apprehensive of moving out and not making the cut. As some of you may know by now, I am on disability for a mental disorder. I have developed over the years some sort of strong nagging urge not to deal with other people. I don't know if these issues need to be addressed first or deal with them as they come along when I move out?
To be quite honest, I don't think I will be able to maintain a job and living essentials, and hence the desire to stay put and happily age with my mom.
Any thoughts or advice welcome.
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What does your mother think ?
If you are both happy with current situation, there isn't a problem, is there?
If you can afford it, or can find the necessary help, you can perhaps find a place nearby. So that you have both support and can dip a toe into a new world. If you see it as a positive step forward, even if you are not confident ( and how many people are no matter their mental health) that will come with each little step of independence.
Can you cook ? Do you have basic house keeping knowledge. Budget. You can learn these skills while still living at home in preparation for moving out. Get the foundations sorted before any major move. It is a major stressor so you have to be in a good place first.
Just a few thoughts.
My mother pretty much wants me to stay put until I get my housing in the area. Until then I'm not sure what to do as the waiting list is pretty long.
Your Mum sounds wise.
What to do ? Prepare yourself. In whatever way you can.
Best wishes.
If you could find a smaller house and convert it to 2 apartments you would have the best of both worlds and be able to make friends with new people as well.
Not likely. It's a good neighborhood and I like my living arrangement. Also, we're both tired of moving around and want to rest easy here.
That makes sense.
Is there something in the arrangement that you don't like?
We rent out the guest room for students and young workers. It help pay the mortgage.
Well to be honest, not really. I couldn't ask for more. I guess I'm feeling appreciative today.