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Romance and Friendship: What's the difference

CallMeDirac February 12, 2022 at 05:52 3575 views 9 comments
I cannot find a distinguishing characteristic between romantic love and platonic love. Is there any way to define romantic attraction without the use of neurotransmitters?

Comments (9)

Tom Storm February 12, 2022 at 07:58 #653809
Reply to CallMeDirac Generally romantic love involves eroticism or actual sex.
CallMeDirac February 12, 2022 at 08:02 #653812
Reply to Tom Storm
Exactly the response I was fishing for.

To that I respond, asexual people still have relationships, people who can no longer engage in sex have romantic partners whether that be from injury or deterioration of bodily functions.

If the people in groups which either don't experience sexual attraction, or cannot engage in any sexual acts can be in a romantic relationship, what then is the differentiating characteristic?
Tom Storm February 12, 2022 at 08:38 #653821
Quoting CallMeDirac
asexual people still have relationships, people who can no longer engage in sex have romantic partners whether that be from injury or deterioration of bodily functions.


As I said an erotic component OR sex. You don't need to engage in sex to have an erotic/romantic relationship with someone. If the relationship is asexual then it is platonic. Anyway that's my view. The subject may be infinitely richer than this.
CallMeDirac February 12, 2022 at 08:41 #653824
Reply to Tom Storm
To clarify I am using platonic to mean friendly, a platonic love is a friendly love, that which one would find between friends.

By your definition, unless someone was sexually attracted to their partner they cannot have a romantic relationship, yet asexual people can and do have romantic relationships.
Tom Storm February 12, 2022 at 08:41 #653826
Quoting CallMeDirac
By your definition, unless someone was sexually attracted to their partner they cannot have a romantic relationship, yet asexual people can and do have romantic relationships.


I'll take your word for it.
180 Proof February 12, 2022 at 10:10 #653855
To begin with, I discern that "the difference" between lovers and friends is the latter seek to enjoy mutual independency and the former seek the passions of mutual dependency ...
pfirefry February 12, 2022 at 11:06 #653872
Quoting CallMeDirac
yet asexual people can and do have romantic relationships


How is it so? Is it a kind of intimacy that doesn't imply sexual arousal?
CallMeDirac February 12, 2022 at 11:11 #653874
Reply to pfirefry
As a society, we acknowledge a difference in romantic relationships and friendships, but what is that difference? I have concluded it is entirely a socialized difference, I am looking for arguments against that conclusion.

Intimacy doesn't necessitate arousal, people will spend time with their partners without the intent of sex nor a feeling of sexual arousal. Thus, there must be something about romantic relationships that doesn't have to do with sex that is distinct from friendship.
pfirefry February 12, 2022 at 11:18 #653876
Quoting CallMeDirac
Thus, there must be something about romantic relationships that doesn't have to do with sex that is distinct from friendship.


True. That must be love. Intuitively, there is a big difference between friendship and love. Are you suggesting that there is no such difference?