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How to stop older brother attacking baby brother

Changeling August 10, 2021 at 21:18 4025 views 15 comments
My sister's older son (2 and half years old) keeps attacking/being mean to his almost 9 month old baby brother. What can be done to stop him attacking?

Comments (15)

Sir2u August 11, 2021 at 01:47 #578467
First of all I doubt that a 2 year old has any idea of meanness in his head. Ask him to explain, he probably won't be able to. Try explaining that it is not nice.

If that does not work.

Slap his ass every time he does it. Not hard, just enough to get his attention. Tell him why he got slapped.
Do not make a fuss about it, he might like the attention and keep on doing it.

180 Proof August 11, 2021 at 04:48 #578512
Reply to Sir2u Old skOol :smirk: :up:
ArguingWAristotleTiff August 11, 2021 at 17:19 #578627
Reply to The Opposite
I'm truly grateful that you are asking before it gets worse, though I am very slim on advice, I am looking for an answer.
Until then I can tell you what my OB/Gyn told me on my 2 week post pardom visit after having my second baby.
The Dr who delivered both kids said that my first born child, age 2.5 was my newborns biggest threat.
My jaw hit the floor. He said that he was serious and to not allow the baby alone with him.
Your family is faced with the challenge of mobility of the young so I have to read up and get back with you.
Keep up with your inquiry because it's a worthy concern but don't paint the older child a problem.
It's usually a family dynamic rather than one person but the toddler is an easy target without knowing the long term consequences.
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Changeling August 11, 2021 at 20:59 #578710
Quoting Sir2u
Do not make a fuss about it, he might like the attention and keep on doing it.


That makes sense.
Changeling August 11, 2021 at 21:00 #578712
Quoting ArguingWAristotleTiff
the challenge of mobility of the young


What's that?
Sir2u August 11, 2021 at 21:54 #578735
Reply to 180 Proof Probably cheaper than all of the therapy sessions as well.
Can't imagine how those kids can carry on after those quacks have told them how badly traumatized they must be.
Jamal August 12, 2021 at 03:31 #578820
:roll:

Reply to The Opposite My advice is to find better sources of information and advice than this forum.
Primperan August 12, 2021 at 10:51 #578887
Reply to The Opposite Reply to The Opposite
A smack on the ass in time avoids many evils.
180 Proof August 12, 2021 at 11:13 #578892
Hanover August 13, 2021 at 10:23 #579260
Cain v. Abel, Jacob v. Esau, Joseph vs. his brothers. This outcome of sibling rivalry thing is a central part of our foundational myth. Cautionary tales perhaps? http://chqdaily.com/2017/07/rabbi-sacks-relates-modern-conflict-biblical-sibling-rivalries/

Quoting jamalrob
My advice is to find better sources of information and advice than this forum.


I usually commend people for bringing their real world problems to an amatuer internet philosophy forum. What could go wrong?

Sir2u August 15, 2021 at 03:52 #579865
Quoting Hanover
What could go wrong?


Your kid could turn out to be another Hitler!!!!
1 Brother James August 18, 2021 at 21:51 #581442
Reply to The Opposite The best way is to ask the older brother his "need" to hurt his younger brother? Do so lovingly, kindly, and with an honest desire to empathetically Know what is causing the older brother to need to hurt the younger brother. My guess? The older brother "feels" left out, or somewhat abandoned by the parents attention to and upon the younger brother. Peace
Primperan August 18, 2021 at 22:55 #581462
Quoting 1 Brother James
The older brother "feels" left out, or somewhat abandoned by the parents attention to and upon the younger brother. Peace


WTF. If my son hits his little brother, I will kick his ass for being a coward. If you hit someone smaller than you because he is defenseless, why do you think your father is not going to apply the same logic to you, idiot? And if he persists in his bad attitude, he would put him up for adoption. He is probably not my son, but a chromosome aberration. Genetics has interesting moments.
Sir2u August 19, 2021 at 00:44 #581484
Quoting Primperan
If my son hits his little brother, I will kick his ass for being a coward.


Ironically that would make you worse than he is.
Primperan August 23, 2021 at 17:57 #583451
Quoting Sir2u
Ironically that would make you worse than he is.


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